The recent engagement of Nigerian actress Ruby Ojiakor has ignited a heated discussion on cultural traditions and proposal etiquette. In a viral video, her partner, Moc Madu, was seen kneeling to propose while wearing the prestigious Igbo red cap.
While the engagement was met with congratulations and celebration, it also sparked debate over the appropriateness of the proposal method. Some argued that it is not proper for an Igbo man, especially one wearing a red cap, to kneel during a proposal.
According to @Treazyblaq, “In Igbo culture, a man does not kneel to ask for a woman’s hand in marriage. The act of kneeling is simply to present a ring. Traditionally, Igbo men do not propose in that manner.”
Others, like @anyayoubadd, took a more romantic view, saying “Love is not for logical people.”
However, many commenters agreed that kneeling during a proposal is not in line with Igbo cultural traditions. As @lifeinsolace put it, “In Igbo culture, if a man wants to marry a woman, he goes to her father to seek her consent through her father.”
The debate highlights the importance of cultural sensitivity and understanding in modern relationships.
@anyayoubadd: It’s not logical for Mazi to kneel but love is not for logical people.
@eatable_chidi: Not just Igbo man with a red cap, It’s not proper for ANY man to knee and propose to a lady. It’s an insult to himself.
@lifeinsolace: No. In Igbo culture, if a man wants to marry a woman, he goes to her father to seek her consent through her father.
@Adaigboukwu : it is never even in our tradition for a man to kneel down to a woman for proposal,,, infact when a man finds a woman that he love & want to marry,he will tell his parents first ones they approves it then they can escort him to the girl’s parents,,that is our tradition.